Dear Sarah: I recently got a promotion in my company that will give me a lot more money a year. However, if I accept my family and I would have to move out of state. My son is so excited, but my two girls (a junior and senior in high school) are so upset about moving that neither one of them are speaking to me. What should I do? This would be such a wonderful opportunity for all of us! Accept or Decline? Dear Accept: Clearly it will be hard for your girls to adjust to a new school and make new friends. However, opportunities like this do not come around very often. You’re the parent and they’…

Dear Sarah: I have a beautiful daughter that I am so proud of and she is getting married soon. I don’t have the money to pay for the wedding or the reception for her and I feel terrible. How can I get over this guilt I am feeling? Feeling Guilty Dear Feeling: I am so sorry you’re feeling guilty for this but I am sure your daughter is very aware that if you had the money you would pay for it. Unfortunately our economy is so bad it is hard for anyone to do anything on a grand scale. I’m also sure she knows that as well. If I were you, I would just be there to support her as much as you possibly…

Dear Sarah:  About two years ago my father passed away.  I moved in with my mother in order to help her with the bills because she was unable to afford them on her own. Since then,  I met a wonderful man who I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. He wants me to move in with him. However,  I can't move in with him and help him with the bills and maintain his home as well as helping my mother with her bills and maintaining her home too. I’m lost. What should I do? I really love this man, but I also really love my mother and want to help her. Stuck in the Middle Dear Stuck: Have …

Dear Sarah: How do you tell someone you care about that her boyfriend is a scumbag? Confused Friend   Dear Confused: If I were you, I would plain out tell them what's going on and why you feel this way about their boyfriend. If they're a good friend they will listen; they may not agree but they will listen. More likely, they will take offense and make excuses for their boyfriend. In this case, keep your mouth shut. She may know he's a scumbag, but lack enough self-respect to care. If your friend can't see the writing on the wall then go on about your business. Once things come crashing down, …

Dear Sarah: Why do I always seem to fall in love with other women's men? Not My Man Dear Not My Man: Clearly you have no self-respect if you can honestly sit back and think that a man that is involved with another woman loves you. Well, thats just insane. This man is obviously using you. While I dont know the whole situation, it can't be healthy for you and it is unfair to the man's "real" woman. He's playing you both. Obviously, he has no respect for either of you. And if he's playing you two, how many other women do you think he's playing as well? Sounds like diseasespreading, …

Dear Sarah: My friend keeps getting back together with a dude I know just isn't right for her. I'm a close friend of this girl (I work with her and have been for the past two years or so) and she has a really good head on her shoulders, but somehow she keeps finding her way back to this loser guy who doesn't deserve her in the first place. What's the best way to get the message to her without sounding intrusive? She and I talk about relationships sometimes, but when I refer to her boyfriend, I feel as though I have to constantly walk on eggshells. I just don't want to see her get hurt again …